Sue Allen serves as the Director of Women’s Ministry at Northside Church. She also publishes a daily devotional that I thoroughly enjoy. With Sue’s permission, I am sharing one of her recent posts.
Good morning . . .
“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing . . . not healing, not curing . . . that is a friend who cares.”
This Henri Nouwen quote reminds me of the “Three C” wisdom of the twelve-step program. When pain ravages the life of a loved one, we must remember:
- I did not cause it.
- I cannot control it.
- I do not possess the power to cure it.
“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusin, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing . . . not healing, not curing . . . that is a friend who cares.”
If you’ve gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything to you, if you have a heart, if you care—then do me a favor: Agree with each other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. (Philippians 2:1-2, MSG)
If you would like to read more of Sue’s blogs or receive her daily devotions, visit https://suetoyou.com
I recently discovered a prayer called Blessing of Breathing by Jan Richardson. The selection can be found in her book entitled The Cure for Sorrow: A Book of Blessings for Times of Grief.
That the first breath will come without fear.
That the second breath will come without pain.
The third breath: that it will come without despair.
And the fourth, without anxiety.
That the fifth breath will come with no bitterness.
That the sixth breath will come for joy.
Breath seven: that it will come for love.
May the eighth breath come for freedom.
And the ninth, for delight.
When the tenth breath comes, may it be for us
to breathe together, and the next, and the next,
until our breathing is as one,
until our breathing is no more.